An observation is that time spent planning ahead makes time for fun during the decorating. Don't go overboard and stress everyone around you. From groom to mother to bridesmaids to co-workers...help them to see the joy in this phase of your wedding planning. Try and make it a goal of yours to have everything planned with moments of laughter. Keep a journal of not necessarily of The List but rather the joy-filled moments that come along the way. When you look back you will forget The List but reading over your journal you will be touched by those moments in your journal.